Domestic adventurers baby.
I think few photos will sum up this moment in our lives any better than this one: stopping in the middle of a hike through desert slot canyons to pull out some bottles to feed the babies.
I loved every time another hiker came around the corner and the backdrop of their desert adventure was suddenly disrupted by a nursery scene.
The two modes that make me happiest are when I’m out exploring and immersed in a new place and when I’m holding one of my kiddos. It’s not so easy to put them together most of the time, but every now and then the magic happens!
Paradox of Adventure
One path looks like breaking out of your comfort zones, challenging yourself, embracing the unfamiliar, mountains and marathons and all that. Another looks like finding the deepest joy in the most ordinary morsels of your life. It’s not either/or thing. Find room for both.
Six Americas of Global Warming
I wish more people knew about the study by Yale: Six Americas of Global Warming.
I think it’s easy to think of climate is this polarizing thing where half of people see it one way and half of people are totally opposed.
In reality, about a third of Americans are alarmed about it and another quarter are concerned. These segments are kind of losing sleep over the topic.
Another quarter are a little more disengaged or apathetic. 10% have their doubts but only 9% are the outright dismissive sorts who will shout hoax at anything presented at them.
I really appreciate that one time John Oliver tried to have a climate debate with a more representative sample of panelists.
In order to get meaningful climate action, we don’t need to convince that really small segment, as much as we need to equip the rest of the spectrum.
When we confuse how loud some of these voices are for how few of them there actually are, the climate conversation gets hung up on the question of: is it real? Rather than the more interesting and important: what should we do?
After Seeing Everything Everywhere
“In another life I would have loved just doing laundry and taxes with you.”
Someone Else's Turf
Getting ready to travel soon, for the first time with my 3-under-3 crew. And here’s a big perspective on travel I’m hoping to pass on.
I think travel is good for people, generally speaking, and I don’t like to gatekeep what travel should look like. If you like cities, cool. Lots of human culture and story there. If nature’s more your thing, I feel that too.
I used to be all about the budget solo backpacking, but now that kids have entered the picture, I’m seeing all the times paying for a few more conveniences is worth it in the long haul.
But there is at least one mindset that I am absolutely opposed to, and it’s the one that completely looks past local communities, cultures, and environments and only sees a personal playground. One where a place’s worth is only defined by how much it’ll cater to a visitor’s comfort or interests or Instagram feed.
I’m all about having a good time when traveling, but I actually believe I’ve found travel so enriching because of this perspective.
When you travel, you are not setting foot on your personal playground.
You are on someone else’s soil.
You are in someone else’s home.
Have fun.
But go with appreciation and respect.
Clear's Law of Recurrence
I wish this was more common knowledge…
It’s called Clear’s Law of Recurrence because of the author James Clear.
It goes, an idea that gets repeated more, gets believed more. It doesn’t matter how good the idea is or if it makes sense.
In a lot of ways this seems like such an obvious, common sense thing. It’s kind of the reason people who think they uniquely see the truth all kind of use the same talking points. And yet we do stuff all the time like quote tweeting really bad takes just to argue with them.
First off, algorithms don’t really care that you’re dunking on the original post, they just see that it’s getting a lot of buzz and so maybe more people want to see it.
There’s a reason I follow you, and not that media personality or congressperson with the bad takes. I don’t want that on my feed.
To be nuanced, there’s a time and place to stand up to harmful rhetoric, but be careful that your instinct to react doesn’t play somebody else’s game for them.
Spend more of your energy getting the better idea out there, and figure out how to amplify it.
Strong Vulnerable Earth
There are so many examples of how nature is just plain powerful.
Gigantic redwoods, ocean currents, strong mammals.
This is what I love about spending time outside- you’re forced to humble yourself when confronted with nature’s wild strength.
But if you’re observant enough, you’ll note that nature is also really vulnerable.
Introduce a species to the wrong ecosystem, disregard soil biology when farming, be too zealous or too reckless with fire control, or simply consume way too much and you’ll see how fragile these places we love really are.
It almost seems like a paradox. Nature is strong. Nature is vulnerable. It’s a contradiction, right?
Maybe it’s not. Maybe these things never were opposites to begin with.
The strongest people I know are also some of the most vulnerable, open hearted people, who aren’t afraid to show their scars.
They don’t sweep their fears under the rug, or dismiss them for good vibes only. They know how grieve and mourn with those who mourn. They own their mistakes and their humanness.
Strength and vulnerability. Hand in hand.
Realm of the 52 Remedies
One of my favorite date nights over the past year was this one: a speakeasy hidden within another bar. One that made me feel like a Crazy Rich Asian.
This place was a lot of fun. I loved the ancient Chinese medicine theme, the secret passageway to get in… and the food was pretty great. Not to mention cocktails- loved the earl grey bourbon mix I had towards the end, and the scallop spaetzle.
Eager to go back!
Most Maps are Misleading
Most maps you see are pretty misleading
But I usually use a quick little India-Greenland test to see how off one is.
India is about 1.5x the size of Greenland… if I were to try and trace the country shapes on a globe and cut them out, you can see this pretty well.
But here’s what most paper maps show instead…
Greenland is often way larger than India… sometimes four times as big.
The reason this happens is that distortion is inevitable when you’re going from a 3D sphere to a flat projection, and whenever you try and compensate you usually wind up with a funny shape and have to splice through countries.
It doesn’t have to biased against countries closer to the equator though and in fact could favor them. But don’t forget most map makers live in the Global North.
Easter & Dante Stewart
Happy Easter to all, and especially to Kai & Juniper celebrating their first.
“The more I grow, the less I want to see my faith as a weapon to be used and more as a world to be explored.
God cares more about me being free and whole than arguing and winning. I want to live grounded in as much love and liberation as possible.”
–Dante Stewart
Slot Canyons
My current aesthetic is all adventure-meets-domestic.
I love this crew so much. Among many other things, they’re my constant reminder that God is good, that so some of the seemingly impossible things we hope for are just around the corner, and not to wish ahead a single day.
Adventure is a Family Value
Adventure is a Family Value:
Zoo Afternoon
Maurice Sendak was once asked to share his biggest piece of advice about raising children. “Love them,” he said.
At first I was like, well duh. Isn’t that just super obvious?
One day last week, Rhys had a pretty rough day at preschool… long story short he was bit by another kid and that’s not too uncommon at that age, but you wanna know that he’s safe and something you’d have to repeatedly worry about. It was easy to jump into problem solving mode, talking to the school and what not. Now Maurice Sednak’s advice makes a lot of sense to me. The most important thing in the moment was making sure my kid felt loved and safe. Sometimes that response can get buried by overthinking and problem solving.
We figured, getting to go to the zoo on a weeknight wouldn’t be a bad way to show Rhys some love. Kai and Juniper went to the zoo for the first time, and we found the new area opened as kind of an ultimate playground.
Bad days happen, but it’s a lot of fun to respond to someone having a bad day with some creativity, spontaneity, and lots of love.
Panta Rhei
Panta Rhei.
Ever hear of that phrase?
It literally means ‘everything flows.’
It’s attributed to the Greek philosopher Heraclitus to describe how change is constant. He said “You cannot step twice into the same rivers; for fresh waters are ever flowing in upon you.”
Even if the river were static, it couldn’t be the same thing twice, because you yourself are changing.
That’s been an especially helpful reminder for me over the past few months, as I’ve been living in a stretch of my life that is simultaneously extremely demanding but incredibly sweet.
At the day to day level, it’s also felt like the same day over and over again, and as someone who thrives off breaking routines and going to the unfamiliar, it’s been challenging in ways that go beyond the physical tiredness.
But lately, I’ve also been delighted more and more by the small moments in between and the sheer sweetness of it all.
A Creative Crisis?
How do you handle a creative dry spell?
I get into it in my newest video.
See my prior post or visit me on YouTube for the full length version.
Washington State Ferry
The Washington State Ferry system has got to be the most underrated public transport system in the US. It’s not much of a surprise to Washingtonians, but it gets little buzz outside the PNW.
You can drive, bike, or walk onto the ferry and for a low cost it can take you to some of the coolest spots on the Puget Sound or Olympic Peninsula.
I’ve taken this thing to the San Juan Islands, Bainbridge Island, Seattle, Anacortes, Orcas…
I love being able to get out of my car and explore around the passenger area. Sitting at one of these tables staring out onto the ocean is a vibe.
Of course, I can never spend the whole ride there. As long as the weather allows, I love climbing on to the deck for the open air.
First time I took my kid he absolutely loved it- and here’s the thing that for me cements it as the best public transport in the U.S.
We totally saw an orca.
Me & My Cousins
Shoutout to everybody in the jumbo sized family club.
This is what it looks like when me and my cousins get together.
Some of my cousins.
On one side of my family alone I have 20. And now we’re all grown, lots of us with kids.
This means we don’t get to see each other all that often anymore, but when we do it looks like this.
April 2022
#92 Brussel Fry
01 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#93 Side Kai
02 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#94 Strolling for Soup
03 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#95 Red Green Leaves
04 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#96 Sweet Twin Morning
05 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#97 Ah Bella
06 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#98 Juniper in the Morning
07 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#99 Everything Everywhere
08 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#100 Deanna and Rhys at the Zoo
09 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#101 Palm Sunday Procession
10 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#102 Mommy Play
11 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#103 Rhys’ Balala
12 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#104 Marketing Dinner
13 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#105 Segway Squad
14 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#106 Primed
15 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#107 1st & 3rd Easters
16 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#108 3 Under 3aster
17 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#109 Pond Reeds
18 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#110 The Show Must Go
19 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#111 Lola Comes for Breakfast
20 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#112 Kai Krib
21 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#113 Dinner by Dee
22 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#114 Filipinx Cookbook
23 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#115 Five Months with Juniper & Kai
24 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#116 Piecer Bikes
25 April 2022 // San Diego, California
#117 Juniper in the Grass
26 April 2022 // Corona, California
#118 Kai’s Here
27 April 2022 // Carson, California
#119 Pharmacy Piecey
29 April 2022 // Carson, California
#120 Torrance Farmers Market
30 April 2022 // Torrance, California
The Most Consequential Photo I've Taken
This is perhaps the most consequential photo I’ve ever taken.
Not necessarily the best, but perhaps the most consequential.
I find a lot of joy and meaning in my life- adventures, community, projects that do good for the world… but this wasn’t always the case. As a college student at the end of 2009, I thought my life felt a bit empty. Directionless.
I wanted to live a better story. I decided to take on the project of taking a photo every day throughout the year.
This photo was from a New Years party in 2010. I don’t even know most of these people.
I figured it would at least encourage me to pay more attention to my surroundings and to train my eye for beauty. I also figured that if my photos were constantly of the same mundane thing every time, it would signal a need to go do something different.
I’m not the first or last to do a project like this. It’s not especially original, but what’s special is the impact it had on my life and the fact that I’ve now been at it for twelve years.
I’ve captured the evolution of my love story and family.
Countless adventures around the world.
And my journey to use creativity to solve world problems.
This was the start of my journey as a storyteller, and why I see my life as a story and the world around me as a great big story full of interconnected threads. That’s why this is perhaps the most consequential photo I’ve ever taken.
Best Dog Park Ever
Right around this time last year, so much was happening. A year to the date was when Deanna first found out we were pregnant again… she’d tell me a little bit later on Easter. Yup, it was on April Fool’s Day and I guess the joke was that she didn’t know there were two kiddos in there just yet.
This was shortly after we took a family trip to Arizona and got to take Beignet to the best dog park ever.
Hopefully that makes up to the fact that we haven’t been to the dog park a whole lot since Kai & Juniper showed up.